Scholars of spiritual purification often mention four quick methods for discovering your self’s infamies (Ar. عيوب النفس). The first method mentioned is usually
- Ask a learned sheikh who has deep perception, knowledge, and insight concerning exposing the infamies of the self.
Many authors of books on the subject lamented the rarity of such people in their own day, thus justifying the need for alternative methods. These other methods include
- Ask a friend to monitor your states and behavior, and then let you know what they find offensive.
Listen to what your enemies say about you.
Mix with people and note what the various ways they annoy you. Chances are good that you suffer from the same, so assume you share those faults.
And success is only from God.